My first solo trip to mexico (and ever)

It all started after a 6 year long court case against a family member, when I realized how important my freedom was. I never got a chance to leave the U.S., but I knew that I was going to make it happen. I also knew that I needed to do it alone. I was 19 when I started planning my trip, and 20 when I actually made the journey. I had so many interesting, but amazing experiences and I am so happy to share every moment. 

I was originally going to travel to this all-inclusive resort called Hotel Riu Cancun. Unfortunately… it did not go as planned. I booked the whole trip for 8 days, thinking I got an amazing deal for under $3,000 including my plane tickets. It was an amazing deal, but not for a solo young woman like me hahahah. I was scrolling on tik tok a week before I was supposed to leave and literally saw a video of a girl informing people NOT to go to hotel RIU, and listed everything that was wrong with the resort. People in the comments were agreeing too so I knew I had to rebook. They were saying that people have reported people stealing valuables, potential drugings, and so much more. I wanted to feel safe the first time I went out of the states, so changing my hotel last minute was no problem for me. I had to wait a little longer, but it was so worth it. I was able to book the most amazing hotel, and the experiences that came with it made me feel sooo happy I decided to rebook. 

The resort I rebooked with was Le Blanc Cancun. This resort is an adults only all inclusive. I was so beyond thankful to finally relax in ways that I haven’t before. I had a really traumatic childhood, and being able to do the things I love makes me forever grateful because I never expected to live this long. Sorry for the trauma dump, I just want to emphasize how grateful I am, and that it took a lot to get to where I am today. Anyways, on the plane I met a nice man who asked me to take some aesthetic videos of the take off with his camera. I decided to mention this because this whole trip I met so many friendly people, and it opened my heart to the reason why I love traveling so much. The couple sitting next to me were amazing people as well, aI had never left the states before, and I had never went on a solo trip. So the journey there was kind of a challenge at times because I was completely unaware of the whole process, but I ended up figuring it out and it was so relieving getting past customs and finally on to the transfer.

Through Le Blanc they provide a transfer back to the hotel, and both times I went to Mexico at Le Blanc Resorts I have been in the transfer with fellow Minnesotans hahaha. It’s so funny because Minnesota is such a niche state to live in. I think the hardest part for me this trip was trying not to let people know that I was traveling alone. I was terrified of something happening to me just because I grew up watching Taken lol. I would tell people I was visiting with friends, or my family. But I do remember it being really difficult for me to lie about it. I would get so paranoid when people would ask me, even if I got good vibes from them. This subsided my second solo trip, but I thought I’d mention it because it was a huge issue for me in Cancun. Upon arrival they gave me a neck warming pillow, and a coconut drink! When I say this resort is truly amazing I mean it. The service there is incredible and I felt like a princess the entire time. While waiting to get checked in there was a young man with his father. I was sitting next to them by the bar, and the son came up to talk to me. He was from Canada, but lived in Spain so he had a that Spanish accent. You probably know where this is going but before I went on this trip I was trying to manifest a movie moment and I was like… wait, is this my MOMENT? He was actually really attractive too, and I know it was probably a bad idea to go off with him THE SECOND I got there, but he seemed really genuine so I gave it a try. He was there for like a month and knew the whole staff. He was also extremely charming. Im avoiding saying his name only because I know he still checks up on my socials and I don’t want him potentially reading this lol. Anyways, we got along really well and we were hanging out the whole night. He showed me how to play pool, and we went on a long night walk on the beach. It was literally perfect. Him and his dad were wealthy, and so was everyone at the resort. It made me realize how much I enjoy surrounding myself with people I aspire to be. I loved having a main character moment, and living in the present moment of wealth. I loved hearing about their stories, and accomplishments. They were leaving the next day sadly, but they gifted me a farewell bottle of champagne. Moet foreverrrr. This is how my love for champagne started actually!

The days following I spent entirely up to myself. Before I went on this trip I was always such a pushover when it came to traveling. I wouldn’t  are about what I wanted to do, and would usually go with the flow. My goal for this trip was to start doing what I wanted in life, and to learn how to relax. I wanted to experience everything, and actually booked multiple activities. But since this was my first solo trip I was extremely scared of doing everything alone. The guy I met also told me to stay safe on the resort, so I honestly just skipped the activities. I didn’t mind though because it meant more time to find myself! I was listening to Bob Marley 432hz (don’t judge lol) allllllll day everyday, just basking in the sun with some snacks and good drinks. I remember feeling so happy and free for the first time in my life. I also decided to get my very first massage. TRULY AMAZING LET ME TELL YOU. I was forced to give my parents massages all my life, and no one has ever given me the massages I give hahaha, so getting this massage was like a dream to me I literally fell asleep. I got a full body and a scalp massage. The restaurants there were all amazing. I was able to go to a different one every night, and the food hit every single time. They had breakfast buffets, which were my favorite, and they had such a variety to choose from no matter where I went. The drinks were amazing, but on the lighter side so I found myself trying to order every drink imaginable. It was perfect. The only issues I had on the trip were this middle aged man (maybe like 20s-30s) complimented me in the elevator one day, and a different day found me on the beach and tried to get me to come back to his hotel. I was drunk at the time, and it was hard for me to lie for some reason about being there alone. I gave him my situationship’s number, but it ended up being wrong (cause I was drunk lol) and he literally came back and asked me if I gave him the wrong number. This was a huge red flag, and even though I ignored all of the other red flags, my flight or fight instantly kicked in. He left eventually, but I stayed on the beach longer so I could avoid him. 20 minutes later I head back up to my hotel and I see him standing by the stairs that lead to the hotel rooms. I didn’t think he’d follow me in but he did. I fast walked to the bathroom and immediately called for security. Luckily, they were so understanding and escorted me back to the beach, but the fact he was being so sketchy and weird trying to get me to go to his hotel was crazy. Because I was visibly so much younger than him. Another weird experience happened to me on the beach a day after this one. I was swimming alone in the ocean, and I noticed this man kept swimming towards me. I was already on edge because of the first creep, so I fought for my life trying to run to get out of the water ( I can barely swim). He then follows me and tries starting conversation. I was so fed up I literally just told him “No” and I ran away with my stuff back to the hotel. Another thing I struggled with was loneliness. After the 6 year long trial I felt so isolated from my family. I thought the trip would completely cure my sadness, but I was extremely emotional still. I think being by myself, in a different country, completely alone made me realize that I was in fact, deeply alone. It was a harsh realization when I was suppose to be having fun. But it also helped me to realize how far I have come, and I was so proud that I was able to do it all myself. 

This trip was life changing and the whole time I felt so connected with my inner child, and with my higher self. I had so many epiphanies about my life, and what I wanted to do next. I learned about what I truly liked/disliked, and I developed a sense of freedom I never thought I would be able to obtain. If you are considering taking your first solo trip- DO IT! It may be so scary at first, but the memories and experiences that come with it are so worth it. Even if it is just a roadtrip to a different town, definitely get out of your comfort zone and explore this beautiful world, and yourself :)